Yeah, I’m thinking of returning because these nutters are out of control and I’m bored of discussing it on my main blog. We have a lot of questions from last time round to get through so expect to see a bit of that over the next few days. -Ian

maozedongisnotcool:

Tumblr has an awful victimization problem. And of course by victimization I mean people who exploit hardships they or others face, or even invoke specificities of their own identity in a conversation where these specificities don’t belong (e.g. telling someone to suck your dick and when they defend themselves call them anti-black) in order to feel slighted or insulted, or even triggered. This website is like a vortex that sucks people into behaving this way, and through encouraging others to be offended or triggered or etc. you confer a sort of perverse pleasure in feelings of temporary oppression. It’s unhealthy behavior and utterly disrespectful to people who come on here sincerely intending to flesh out frustration and anger with actual, structural, social problems. You, by inventing triggers for socially or physiologically normal occurrences like trivial disagreements or menstruation, simply because you do not like them, are not facing structural problems, you are facing problems you invented and reveling in feelings of perceived oppression. You obsess over these inventions until you actually and pathologically convince yourself they’re triggering and real. This is some kind of weird sociological internet phenomenon. But whatever it is, it’s disrespectful and unctuously pathetic.

dank-potion:

I wish people would stop using terms like anti-black, white-identifying and anti-semitic sporadically every time they have a disagreement with or visceral dislike for someone. There are actually really heavy connotations to these labels and it’s fucked up to see Tumblr users bastardize them to have some irrelevant advantage over someone in an argument.

teramerapyar:

kavitiya:

anonymous said:

I’m curious about your thoughts about the “otherkin are not oppressed” idea I’ve seen going around. I also would miss you horribly if you disappeared, because of death or because other reasons. <3

thank you <3333

i do think that otherkin are oppressed, and that otherkin hate and erasure is a form of systemic violent oppression. i think that non-otherkin humans have privilege over otherkin and that acts in really horrible ways.

i have been really despairing about the “otherkin are not oppressed” posts going around, though i also want to respect otherkin who are saying this, and i’ve been meaning to write up something about it and i was thinking extensively about it this morning, but i haven’t been able to write it yet. but i will, soon, i hope.

No, you are wrong. Wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong, WRONG. I tried not to say anything but you need to stop. This post is disgusting, stupid and offensive even for your standards. It sucks that otherkin get made fun of on the internet. I can see how this is unpleasant for you, but this is not violent systemic oppression. You may be mocked, put down, attacked with words and so on, but this does not mean you are oppressed. You toss around this language so freely until it means nothing. Oppression, systemic, violence - these words have specific implications! Like, how do you even rationalise this mental leap (‘people make fun of me’ »» ‘I am oppressed for being otherkin’). Are there laws discriminating against you? Are you wrongfully criminalised? Is there systemic violence perpetrated against people like you? I personally don’t care if you identify as a cat or whatever; it’s your ife, do what makes you happy. But I am sick of this ‘oppression’ bullshit.

(Of course, I should expect nothing less ridiculous from the girl who equates ‘nerd/geek hate’ with the fucking HOLOCAUST and thinks criticising lying and manipulation is ableist but really, you need to stop)

tl;dr: here is John Abraham to summarise

however much distaste i have for her and the way she puts herself across sometimes (to put it mildly), gaga is a human being… celebrities are not god-like, their actions are just amplified. i understand there is an element of hypocrisy with her ignorance sometimes when she or her management act as if they are the gods of the LGBT community, but at least she is actually doing something out of good intentions. there are some really shitty things she has done like pulling apart a doll meant to represent a popular girl and calling it a ‘bulimic bitch’ or something along those lines (which she does deserve some call outs on), but on the other hand you can’t really be a pop star and be vanilla and inoffensive all the time, because that just isn’t what a popstar is.

like whoever you want! just don’t turn into a fan who is completely uncritical and oblivious to when someone is acting shitty. you can like someone but acknowledge sometimes they act like an arsehole.

besides, honestly, where the flying fuck were social justice types rallying against the tide of popular culture when people like eminem were practically revelling in blatantly misogynistic/homophobic/transphobic lyrics at the start of the decade over and over again? they might be doing a half-hearted job at attacking someone like tyler the creator and kreayshawn now, but they don’t seem to care about the foundations of ‘controversy’ in music that people like them are only building off of…

-leon

Dissociative Identity Disorder is actually an issue for some people and I hope they can get the help they need. That said, when someone claims that their ‘headmates’ are characters from Homestuck, they’re just full of shit. -Ian

I posted this before on the old DFP blog but I think it bears repeating because of the glitterbomb incident:

I’m bi and I’ve been annoyed by things that Dan Savage has said about the bisexual community, the trans community and others. He’s far from perfect. But anyone who thinks that he is THE ENEMY!!!!111!!!1 needs to get some perspective. I think it’s hard to read Savage Love regularly (and I suspect most of the people decrying him don’t, they just freak out every time he says something dickish) and believe that he is actually as biphobic, transphobic, misogynistic, etc. as people accuse him of being. Just like with the “shemale” comment that everyone’s flipping out over, a lot of times the stuff people get mad about is taken out of context - for example, the quotes about his being grossed out by vaginas that are regularly used as evidence of his supposed misogyny, in context, usually come with a disclaimer that it’s just him personally finding them gross as someone who is not attracted to women, and he’s in no way endorsing the shame about vaginas the media perpetuates as a way to sell douches and other unnecessary products. A lot of the offending statements are from older columns, too - his views have definitely evolved over the nearly decade-and-a-half he’s been writing.

Back to the perspective thing: A lot of my adolescence was spent reading teen magazines, being awkward and having no idea how to talk to boys I liked (I didn’t acknowledge my bisexuality until college), and I’ve never quite been able to shake my addiction to relationship advice columns, even when I don’t need them. Suffice it to say I’ve read quite a few, so I can say pretty confidently that most mainstream dating advice, even the more “progressive” stuff, relies on a heavy dose of not only heteronormativity but also gender essentialism (boys want this out of relationship and girls want that), sex-negativity (especially for women), and assuming everyone has the same relationship models and goals - namely, monogamy and (eventually) marriage. Savage’s column is one of the few mainstream ones that doesn’t do that, giving the many, many people left out by that model a voice. I think that when you’re stuck in the SJ blogosphere bubble, it’s easy to forget just how revolutionary that is for a mainstream sex/relationships column. That’s part of why Savage has so many straight readers; outside of the queer community, a lot of those conversations just don’t happen very often.

With that plus the It Gets Better project, I really have a hard time agreeing with certain SJers that Dan Savage is doing more harm than good for the queer community. He isn’t perfect, but who is? And I think a large part of his appeal is he isn’t perfectly politically-correct, isn’t tut-tutting people about doing things the “right” way, so people are more likely to listen when someone like him says the word “shemale” is offensive than they are to some blogger who’ll just rant about how they don’t have enough spoons and tell them to go read [Insert Oppression] 101. And while consciousness-raising is indeed important, the ability to win over the undecided is what ultimately ends up creating real change.

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What the ever-loving-fuck is this shit: http://liquornspice.tumblr.com/post/12950216429/ok-yall-new-rule

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‘the only participation white people are allowed (unless they have a super valuable skill or the elders of the group have been working with them for some time and want them around…) is fundraising and footwork.  No planning. No talking at the meetings. You can submit questions to the white people box and MAYBE we’ll look at them if you aren’t on some foolishness.  But THAT’S IT.’

Yes, that’s exactly the way to correct the racial issues in activist movements. *rolls eyes* Perhaps she was blowing off steam or something? Dealing with racism is really draining but I can’t possibly believe someone would think this way. -Ian

yeah this is exactly the problem. i wasn’t even aware i was autistic until i was psychologically evaluated at sixteen years of age by a child psychiatrist. i just thought i had severe depression due to several bullshitty things going on in my life and whatever physical problems i had like being unable to tie my shoelaces in a coherent pattern ever was ‘just the way i was’, and social problems were the same. of course, autism is a pretty broad spectrum and has some problems with trend diagnoses nowadays, so i’m still not 100 percent on board with it and question it when i realise how different low functioning people are to me (one of the perils of speaking for them, i would say). for instance, most autism is marked by slow development, but my development in walking, talking etc was faster than average. so it is confusing.

mental disorders are very, very, very, very complex and can overlap in symptoms a lot of the time (as can physical ones). one of my friends has a delusional disorder where she can see her own characters and she used to believe they were real. it doesn’t fit into DID (because she doesn’t believe she -is- them) and it isn’t schizo either (because schizophrenia is usually non-visual delusionary symptoms, i believe). nonetheless it is very fucked up and she has to be medicated quite stringently. this is the danger of self diagnosis or fetishising mental disorders into a ‘lifestyle’… - leon

yeah that is very true actually, the vaccine nutjobs are terrible and they keep being encouraged by the hysterics of the media. the people i was talking about, however, were not focusing on that, instead they were essentially telling people to stay away from ALL of them because the so called ‘fact’ (?!) that these charities and even government health organisations were ‘run by privileged neurotypical white cisgender men’ supposedly meant that no autistic person could be helped by them ever. that was the type of bullshit that was going too far, utter paranoia and lunacy.

but yes, you’re right in what you said, definitely. the ‘cure’ organisations should be generally avoided just like those quack religious doctors who think they can ‘cure’ homosexuality (ugh). -leon